Recently I've had some really nice bits of feedback from people who have enjoyed my statuses, posts, etc. regarding my foster son Jack. Several of my readers and facebook friends have said things like 'inspiring', 'hysterical', and 'heartfelt' when describing my experiences. It is such a warmth to my soul to get that positive feedback.
I post my experiences in my blog and my facebook in order to provide people with a realistic perspective on adoption, foster care, etc.
Many of you knew me before the whole Uganda-scam situation. It was very difficult for me to work through that. I had so much support from friends who volunteered time, money, skills, etc. to help me. In the end, it didn't work out due to it being adoption fraud. (One reader posted a comment that I should 'just get over it' and that my infatuation with a young boy was creepy... If you don't like my blog, don't read it. I didn't allow that comment to be published because I don't want negativity. In addition, you're telling me to 'get over' an experience which affected me and dozens of people in my life negatively. It took away several years of my life's plans and was psychologically very difficult.)
With foster care, I won't say that it is easy. In fact, it is very difficult at times. I get frustrated. I get lonely being at home with no adults to talk to. I deal with schedules. Teaching him manners. Dealing with tantrums.
We have good days where everything is great. We have bad days where nothing seems to go right and I'm near tears due to frustrations.
But I think in the end, it will be worth it. Will Jack ever get adopted? Who knows. But I hope that with me, he will get some more stability. Eventually, I will adopt children. For now, we'll see what happens.
I am glad to know people enjoy reading my experiences. I need to update this more often. :)
p.s. This morning, Jack told me "I'm going to give you a hug and say 'I want you' like the other kids at daycare do to their parents." Sure enough, he did. Although it was a feeble acting job. I think he wanted to test the waters to see if I would be nice when he showed that emotion... and of course I assured him that we'd see each other soon and that everything would be alright. He's a cute little stinker!
I post my experiences in my blog and my facebook in order to provide people with a realistic perspective on adoption, foster care, etc.
Many of you knew me before the whole Uganda-scam situation. It was very difficult for me to work through that. I had so much support from friends who volunteered time, money, skills, etc. to help me. In the end, it didn't work out due to it being adoption fraud. (One reader posted a comment that I should 'just get over it' and that my infatuation with a young boy was creepy... If you don't like my blog, don't read it. I didn't allow that comment to be published because I don't want negativity. In addition, you're telling me to 'get over' an experience which affected me and dozens of people in my life negatively. It took away several years of my life's plans and was psychologically very difficult.)
With foster care, I won't say that it is easy. In fact, it is very difficult at times. I get frustrated. I get lonely being at home with no adults to talk to. I deal with schedules. Teaching him manners. Dealing with tantrums.
We have good days where everything is great. We have bad days where nothing seems to go right and I'm near tears due to frustrations.
But I think in the end, it will be worth it. Will Jack ever get adopted? Who knows. But I hope that with me, he will get some more stability. Eventually, I will adopt children. For now, we'll see what happens.
I am glad to know people enjoy reading my experiences. I need to update this more often. :)
p.s. This morning, Jack told me "I'm going to give you a hug and say 'I want you' like the other kids at daycare do to their parents." Sure enough, he did. Although it was a feeble acting job. I think he wanted to test the waters to see if I would be nice when he showed that emotion... and of course I assured him that we'd see each other soon and that everything would be alright. He's a cute little stinker!