There is an idea in the adoption world that a
Another year, another's Father's day... My original hope last year at this time was that Kabaale would be here with me by this time. If I hadn't learned I was ultimately ineligible and had to cancel, that would be the case.
My agency was dishonest. The orphanage in DR Congo was dishonest. I feel like I'm the only one who is honest and ethical in this whole situation. Looking forward to the future: I have a big chance to become a parent through foster care. Here's to hoping that next Father's Day, I'll have someone to celebrate being a dad for. I spent most of the weekend alone with intermittent breaks involving other people. However, I have been asked the question "Don't you wish you could have your own children?" TWICE from Friday afternoon to the present. (Okay, so I admit it wasn't entirely the weekend but Friday after work counts as a weekend in my book!)
I have a few thoughts on it: 1) Any child I adopt WILL be my kid. The phrase you're looking for is "Don't you wish You could have your own biological children?" I will treat any children in my own as if they were my biological children because they will be important parts of my life, regardless of DNA. 2) Of course I do wish I could have my own biological children. And I'm not completely cutting out that possibility. Is it my top priority right now? No. But just because I go through adoption and all those heartaches and woes doesn't mean I cannot ever have biological children. I think some people get hung up on normalcy... just because a child isn't my own biological creation doesn't mean that the child is not mine. |
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