On December 1st, 2014, I canceled my adoption... | For those who I have not updated, my adoption in Uganda has been cancelled. This is not out of choice, but out of necessity. I found out from a contact in Uganda that while single men are "eligible" for adoption legally, culturally they will not be granted a legal guardianship. Single men are seen to be unusual parents. In the past, some single men who have adopted have now come forward showing how they lied to adoption authorities in order for the adoptions to be completed. It has created a huge issue in adoption cases. The law books say that I am still eligible, but single men are not able to adopt. They are all being denied and have been for a while. My adoption agency's lawyer didn't inform them of this issue. I had to investigate it myself. I will not be able to get a refund for the money I used for my homestudy. Supposedly, I will learn in a month if I am eligible for any of the money I gave the agency. In addition, there's some question to the legitimacy of many aspects of Ugandan adoptions whether they're being accomplished legally, ethically, and without bribery. So far, it appears that for most if not all adoptions in Uganda, there is corruption. UNICEF even did a study on adoptions there over the course of a year. Every case had some level of corruption. I do not want to adopt through deceitful means even if I am not aware of the deceit. I am still saddened by this... it hurts my feelings. It pains my heart. It hurts me knowing that all my work might have been in vain... Years of my life down the toilet and I'm financially hurting from it. I gave literally all my savings to this agency for the adoption. Any money which I do get refunded to me will go towards my plans of foster-care adoption. It will cover the expenses I have to complete my next homestudy, buying furniture for the bedrooms, and working towards rebuilding my dreams again. I do not want to discuss this adoption in Uganda very heavily. If you have questions not answered in the above message, you can contact me privately. I do not want to discuss it heavily, though, as it is still very fresh in my mind and still painful to discuss. |
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jillyn
12/10/2014 03:31:46 am
Oh Brad, that is heartbreaking!!! I am so sorry for your loss. My heart is aching for you!
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Corinna
12/10/2014 03:53:19 am
Bradley that is so tremendously heartbreaking. I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Kristy Shields
12/10/2014 07:35:52 am
Brad I am so sorry to hear what has happened. It really breaks my heart!
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Wrylon
12/15/2014 05:30:58 am
Oh, how beyond heart breaking! My heart hearts for you!
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